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We threw ourselves a goodbye party today. In the afternoon, lots of our friends with kids came with their kids. In the evening, more friends without kids came and things got less shrieky in a hurry.

Reminding ourselves how many cool people we know in Pittsburgh might not have been the best idea for our moving angst, but it was nonetheless fun to spend the day hanging out with cool people.

And reminds me to make the same resolution for Kirkland that I made for Pittsburgh but didn't totally succeed at: if people are awesome and I want to interact with them, I should try to interact with them instead of hanging back and wishing I was cool enough to interact with them.

Doha made socializing easy because you knew the expats had nothing better to do than hang out with you. So I wasn't shy about saying "Let's get dinner tonight" or "Can I sit at your table" or "Can you give me a ride home and hang out," because I wasn't scared they'd say "No, I have better plans." It takes a lot more bravery for me to request people's time and attention in the real world, because I am always convinced that people must have better things to do with their time. And then it's time to say goodbye, and I realize how many opportunities were unrealized because I was too scared of rejection.


Date: 2016-07-05 05:18 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] ikeepaleopard
I don't have anything useful to say except to add, I also have this problem. I started realizing that every time I'm not saying something to someone they are doing the same thing to me and it's probably for the same awkward reason.

PS did you do a thing with your name?

Date: 2016-07-06 05:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] toorsdenote.livejournal.com
I feel like that's the thing I always fail to get through my skull -- that other people also feel bored and lonely and stuff. Somehow I imagine that, when I'm at home wishing I had someone to hang out with, all the cool kids are out there doing cool kid things.

Re: name, one of yinz suggested Em and I kinda like that if I can get over feeling like it implies I'm an Emily? Maybe I could go with M. Or is that too Bond?

Date: 2016-07-06 10:50 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] http://users.livejournal.com/_tove/
"M" is great! I like the spy/hacker alias overtones. Drawback: probably impossible to obtain on social media.

Date: 2016-07-07 02:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] toorsdenote.livejournal.com
That's OK with me; I plan to keep being toorsdenote most places. This is just for, like, people actually using my name in conversation.

In which case I suppose the spelling is irrelevant...

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